The thoughts and concerns of the typical teenage girl are divided as follows: 2% is devoted to family, school, 5% and 10% friends, leaving the remaining 83% for males. Although these percentages are only an estimate and should not be taken for granted, I'm sure my approach is pretty darn close. This is because not only am I an avid fan of Molly Ringwald, making me an expert on the subject, but because Stasi Harrell, once a teenage girl. Despite great strides in my recovery, I have to admit I was a boy-aholic certifiable. The heady, slightly sickening, the smell of Axe deodorant just might send me into a frenzy animal, ready to pounce on the sample closest to the testosterone infused I could find. The mere sight of boxers appears above a pair of baggy jeans holding the thighs of a boy to save his life was enough to give me heart palpitations. My friends and I spent the afternoon discussing the very serious issues surrounding our love lives. How do I break with Mark without making things difficult in Biology? Why can not Sean texted me back? He must have lost his phone. Or maybe he does not get very good reception, wherever you are. Or maybe it was an unfortunate skiing accident that cut off his thumbs text messaging.

Because teens like to talk about their relationship problems that important, newsworthy things like oil spills, recessions, or even secret engagement Britsol Palin Levi Johnston, have a tendency to be written off as little Ditz just boy crazy deep. However, I am here to defend the honor and reputation of these walking talking Judy Blume novels. Adolescent girls, in their search for answers about the objects of their obsession, their male counterparts, are actually very spiritual. They are completely and cleverly attuned to the universe in its most basic form and the things that unite all mankind. I came to this conclusion while reading the New York Times, Eat, Pray, Love. True to my "superficial" roots, I admit I only bought the book because of my longstanding belief that one day I will meet and marry James Franco, who will star in the film version of the novel next. Somewhere between eating and praying (about one third of the distance in memory), Elizabeth Gilbert shares with the public the idea that human beings as a whole, regardless of age, race or religion are really concerned about one thing: love and relationships.

She will relate a case in which a psychologist friend of hers was going to talk to a group of Cambodian refugees. Expect they have nothing in common with these people who not only live a completely different lifestyle, but who have survived rape, hunger, torture, and on top of that, I was not sure if they could reach any common ground. She was surprised to discover that all refugees want to talk about their relationship problems. While Gilbert may have exaggerated the Cambodian effort to disclose the intimate details of their relationship, reminding us what is really important in a person's life. Despite the differences between us, whether in terms of culture or experience, or even goals and plans for the future, we all share a desire to love and be loved.

Before starting to cover his ears for fear that I may start belting out a medley of songs by Elton John or Celene Dion, I'll go ahead. By no means am I suggesting that all leave our jobs, drink from the fountain of youth and join a commune where our sole purpose in life is to explore the inner workings of the human heart (but when written well, it doesn't half bad sound). I am suggesting that we hope these young girls as inspiration. As we age, our approach becomes more practical. We spend so much time to worry about "serious" matters that do not have time to work on our relationships. As a result, our marriages break, lose touch with our friends and just talk with our families in the birthdays and holidays. By taking time out of our world from war and hatred and water bills, maybe we can learn to appreciate the simple things. Sure, we may have to invest in a wider phone plan (in the working relationship requires a lot of communication!) But I can not think of anything more worthwhile.