Know it sounds stupid but find someone that initial attraction is not really there. Your attracted to that type of guys that are jerks. Now that doesn't mean all the guys you think you like are assholes but be patient take your time to figure out you new guy. I use to be attracted to clueless twitty blondes lol. Took awhile and some really painful moments but I finally figured out what kind of person I should be attracted to. lol I found a Blonde with out the clueless and twitty.
Oh well I hope you figure it out, everyone needs somebody.
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